mod_fastcgi currently has a bug with graceful apache restart, it'll kill all php/fastcgi processes. There's a patch from Bernd Wurst, nobody from upstream commented on that. I'd suggest that for the meantime, we add this patch to the gentoo ebuild, although it's not really nice, but it "works for me" for a while now: http://svn.schokokeks.org/repos/overlay/trunk/www-apache/mod_fastcgi/files/fcgi_pm.c.diff More info on the bug: http://bugs.php.net/bug.php?id=41593
fixed, thanks